"You Don’t Get to Know Why"

 Rant Of The Day 5/20/2025

"You Don’t Get to Know Why"

by Jenn D. Real

The hard truth is this: you can do everything right and still be hated. You can speak kindly, act with integrity, and treat people with compassion—and yet still find yourself the target of resentment, envy, or pure irrational dislike. It can make absolutely no sense. And worse? There’s nothing you can do to change it.

You can explain yourself until you're blue in the face, desperately trying to make someone see your heart, your truth, your side of the story—and still end up standing in the same spot, unheard and misunderstood. That’s because you cannot control another human being. Not their perceptions. Not their behavior. Not even their decisions to cut you out, twist your words, or paint you as the villain in their story.

You can be hated by people you never wronged—and you may never be told why. The only explanation you’re given is their choice to hate you. That’s it. You don’t get closure. You don’t get clarity. You just get silence or shade. And you have to learn to be okay with that.

Let that be the moment you stop spending your precious energy trying to win over the unwilling. Let that be the spark that fuels your investment in yourself. Because here’s the truth no one wants to say out loud: you are the only person you can control.

So take that power back. Focus it inward. Leave behind the toxic people—whether or not they give you answers, apologies, or anything resembling accountability. Your mindset isn’t like theirs anyway. And even if they did explain themselves, would their reasoning ever make sense to you?

I’ve learned that other people’s thoughts, feelings, and motives are not my business. Not anymore.

I’m in charge of me: my peace, my progress, my purpose.

If someone is more obsessed with trying to destroy my light than healing their own shadows, that’s a reflection of them, not me. Let them stagnate. Let them watch from the sidelines while I rise. Their bitterness only exposes their own foolishness.

I choose to ignore gossip.

I choose to protect my energy.

I choose to remove toxic people, unapologetically.

I choose to care for my body, my mind, and my spirit.

I choose to improve, even if I stumble along the way.

No, I will never be perfect. But I will always be evolving.

I want to be self-aware. I want to recognize my missteps so I can grow from them. Because I’m not just living—I’m building a legacy. And the ones who hated me without cause? They’re being left behind, right where they chose to stay.

What becomes of them? Again, none of my business.