Unaligned: Why Settling Isn't Love (And Why You Deserve Better) Rant Of The Day Blog Article July 30th, 2025 By Jenn D. Real

Unaligned: Why Settling Isn't Love (And Why You Deserve Better)

Rant Of The Day Blog Article July 27th, 2025

By Jenn D. Real

Have you ever tried forcing a puzzle piece into the wrong space?

You turn it. Tilt it. Push a little harder.

It looks like it might go there—but it doesn’t quite fit.

Maybe you leave it anyway, thinking, “Close enough.”

But deep down, you know the truth:

It doesn’t belong there.

And neither do you.

You Are Not Broken — You Are Whole

There’s a lie we get taught early on—especially those of us who grew up carrying trauma in our bones and hope in our pockets:

That we need someone else to complete us.

But here's the real truth:

You were never broken.

You are your own shape, your own art form, your own storm and stillness.

You're made of paper, glue, paint, and cardboard—

a fully formed puzzle piece, whole by design.

And when the right piece finds you?

It doesn’t complete you.

It aligns with you.

It compliments your edges.

Matches your image.

And suddenly, the picture becomes clearer.

When Things Start to Align

This is the part that gets overlooked.

When you find alignment—true, soulful resonance—it’s not just about love and passion and finishing each other's sentences.

It’s also practical.

Things start working.

You laugh more.

You fight less.

Money stretches further.

Time opens up.

The friction falls away, and life flows with unexpected ease.

When you are in alignment with your life partner,

your life aligns making everything seem easier.

Life flows freer when it's aligned.

It’s not perfect, no. But it feels like you’re building something on solid ground.

You begin to feel…

peace

home.

So Why Do We Stay Misaligned?

Because we’re afraid.

Afraid of being alone.

Afraid of hurting someone.

Afraid we won’t find better.

Afraid that maybe we're the problem.

So we rationalize the discomfort.

We shrink ourselves to make room.

We stay in puzzle spaces that kind of fit,

but never really click.

But here's the cost of settling that no one talks about:

When you’re with someone who isn’t your fit,

you’re not just robbing yourself of alignment—

you’re robbing them, too.

And the soulmate you were both meant for?

They’re still out there.

Alone.

Unaware of why they feel incomplete, why they cry at night for something they can’t name.

And that, my friend, hits deep.

Four Hearts Held Hostage

When you stay with someone who isn’t your puzzle piece,

Four souls suffer:

1. You, for denying your own truth.

2. Them, for not receiving a love that truly sees them.

3. And your true counterpart, still waiting unknowingly in a world that feels just a little too cold

4. Their true counterpart is out there too

It’s not about blame. It’s about courage.

Because walking away from almost-right is one of the hardest things a human can do.

But it’s also one of the most loving.

Set Them Free. Set Yourself Free.

This isn’t about fairy tale romance.

This is about sacred alignment.

When your life is unaligned, everything feels harder.

You’ll feel like you’re constantly swimming upstream with no rest.

And if you’re honest, you already know it.

So if you’re in a relationship where the puzzle pieces don’t fit—where your needs don’t match, where your joy is rationed, where nothing flows—

please hear me:

You don’t have to stay.

Leaving is not cruelty.

Staying misaligned is.

Free yourself.

Free them.

And give the real connection—the one that clicks—a chance to be found.

Because when you do find that fit?

You’ll know.

And everything will make sense.

You’ll laugh at all the ways you once settled.

And you’ll never want to go back.

When you’re aligned, it feels like life finally exhales.

Be brave enough to hold out for that feeling.

Be kind enough to free those who aren't your match.

That’s not heartbreak.

That’s grace.